10 Ways to Master the Art of Perfect Timing!

10 Ways to Master the Art of Perfect Timing!

“Master the art of perfect timing and you will control the trajectory of your life!”

-Trey Boyer

It has been said that time is an illusion, but TIMING is an art. Reflect on what that means for a moment, because gaining an understanding of how important timing is, can literally change the trajectory of your life. Mastering the art of perfect timing will affect your relationships with others, elevate you to profound levels of achievement professionally, and can open doors for you that otherwise would remain closed.  The following 10 strategies will cultivate a culture of perfect timing in your life


The art of knowing how to read people effectively is an absolute game changer. One of the most egregious mistakes that you can make is to interrupt someone when they are speaking. It shows a complete lack of respect and there is nothing that can erode a relationship quicker than when you believe what you have to say is so important that it can’t wait. On the other hand, when you allow someone to finish their thought, you are building a bridge that will allow for the most conducive discourse.

So, what is the best technique that I can utilize to communicate with others most effectively? One of the most efficacious means that you use to achieve rewarding outcomes is to study a person’s eyes. Take notice of how a person’s eyes tend to go from side to side when they are in a middle of a thought. It is usually only when they are finished with a thought that they will then make direct eye contact again. In addition, you can observe an individual’s facial expressions. This is an extremely valuable technique in knowing when to hold your tongue and when to express yourself. For example, if you are wanting to have an important conversation with someone, but you notice that they appear to be completely disinterested, wait for another day. To the contrary, if they are beaming and grinning from ear to ear, that is your que to step up.


The very essence of success is interconnected with momentum. Have you ever had one of those days where you are hitting green lights at every intersection? It may have surprised you at first and you had to pinch yourself to make sure it was really happening. As you master the art of perfect timing, your life could be one green light after another.  Simply put, learn how to capture momentum, and watch your life transfer to a level few could ever dream of attaining. Success breeds success in that the more you win, you become an unstoppable force. Just picture in your mind Niagara Falls with a drop off of nearly 170 feet as it comes gushing straight down with incredible strength and power. Capture this picture in your mind’s eye as you become enraptured in a waterfall of majestic force. When a current of water takes a determined direction, the current becomes so strong that everything in its path becomes subservient to its will. That is the type of power that you can have once you begin to channel your focus.


The art of timing is your most valuable resource, so know for certain how you are spending yours.

“You can waste your money and you are only out of money. However, waste your time and you’ve lost part of your life.”

-Michael LeBoeuf

Have clearly defined objectives each day and know for certain what it is that you want to accomplish. Being objective oriented is so important because it will speak to the quality of life that you can absolutely own. Think about this, if you saved 20 minutes a day, you would save 100 extra minutes a week. In a month’s time you could save over 6.5 hours which equates to nearly one whole workday. With that knowledge, discipline yourself to be a wise consumer of how you are spending your time and focus your efforts accordingly


QT stands for quality time and it is imperative that you be alert as to how efficient you are with your time less you miss some of life’s most advantageous opportunities. One of the most fundamental differences between successful individuals and those who are not, resides in their ability to recognize what priorities should receive top billing. This requires an acute awareness of how to stand out without burning out. Simply put, you must incorporate a work/life balance that enables you to have proper perspective and enjoy the life you have been given. It is imperative that you make time to have time to enjoy the most precious blessing in life or you will one day have more regrets than fond memories. For example, you don’t take a vacation to escape life, but you take a vacation to ensure that life doesn’t escape you. Therefore, be mindful of creating a balanced life that encompasses a beautiful landscape of many wonderful and impactful experiences.

In ancient Greece, they used two forms of time. The first was Chronos, which simply referred to chronological or sequential time. The second was a term they coined as Kairos, which stood for a significant moment in time. Several examples of Kairos events could be the birth of a child, graduation day, a memorable vacation, or perhaps a job promotion. The point is, that the special moments in life are the ones that you treasure, so make as many Kairos moments in your life as possible.


If you don’t go after what you want, you will never have it, if you don’t ask the answer will always be no, and if you don’t take a step forward, you will always be in the same place.”

-Nora Roberts

This does not mean to go to Las Vegas and gamble over the weekend, but for taking calculated risks. If you are not willing to be a risk taker, you will never capture the most advantageous blessings in your life which must be embraced by seizing opportunistic situations. Life can either be all about near misses or capitalizing on life changing moments that can change your future.


When opportunity comes knocking, you must be ready to open the door and invite it in. Most successful individuals do not necessarily have more intelligence, experience, or talent. What they do have are very good instincts. When they see a potential opportunity, their sense of timing assures that they are the first ones through. The takeaway is that great opportunities are limited, and you must seize them when they are presented.


It can be very advantageous to connect with individuals who are influential or are associated with those who are. A key component to having great timing is in knowing what is going to happen before the rest of the world. For example, the best journalists are typically very well connected and are the first to break a big story because of their connections. Much is the same in life in that you can be one step ahead of your contemporaries by listening to voices that are in the know. 


There is a story worth telling of someone who capitalized on ideal timing and who was able to use their knowledge to find their niche. This individual was inspired to develop video telephone software after hearing Bill Gates speak at a conference in Japan. They were employed at Cisco Systems and began developing a smartphone-friendly video conferencing system. This is where the story takes an interesting turn. Their idea was rejected by Cisco management, but they were convinced that what they knew could be revolutionary to how people communicated. They chose to part ways with Cisco and started their own company to be named Zoom Video Communication. Eric Yuan took his company public in 2019 and his timing could not have been more ideal with the outbreak of the COVID epidemic. Eric’s technology made it possible for people to conduct business from their home and for educators to teach students online when schools began to close.  His net worth increased 360% overnight and people were able to successfully communicate and network across the globe. It is illustrations like this that you can use to inspire you to pair ideal timing with finding your own unique niche. Quite possibly, you could change the landscape in your field of expertise and enhance people’s quality of life by doing so.


The reality of life is that life can either happen to you or it can happen for you. I want to encourage you to step out of the known and embrace the unknown. Realize that change can be uncomfortable, but nothing is as uncomfortable as staying where you don’t belong. This quite simply requires for you take on the mentality that you will not play it safe, but you will instead choose to take a leap of faith for something better. Eric Yuan is a great example of someone who could have played it safe and chosen to remain with a company where he received a guaranteed paycheck with benefits. Instead, he chose to follow his heart and he took a bold leap of faith to advance on his convictions. That is how you capitalize on your most precious resource of perfect timing to catapult you to a life of magnificence.


Procrastination is the bad habit of putting off until tomorrow what you could have achieved yesterday. Just think about it, the only way to get to where you want to be is to become more determined than ever that you will not reside in what could have been, but you will embrace what is to be. Realize that the only failures in life are the times that you failed to try. This is where the rubber meets the road, and you must discipline yourself to do the work. Understand that you cannot change yesterday, you have no control over what tomorrow may bring, but you have absolute control over how you seize the day in front of you. With that knowledge in your arsenal…

Climb every mountain, ford every stream, follow every rainbow, until you find your dream

-Sound of Music

In conclusion, master the art of perfect timing and you will control the trajectory of your life. Proper timing will empower you to communicate with others most effectively, elevate you to profound levels of achievement professionally, and open doors for you that otherwise would remain closed. Furthermore, capture the wave of momentum and know for certain what your objectives are in order to be most time efficient. Remain alert in how you are balancing your time between work and leisure and remember that you must take time in order to make time work for you. You are also going to have to take calculated risks and welcome advantageous opportunities when they come knocking because they don’t come around every day. An important key in ensuring that you are able to capitalize on ideal opportunities is to keep your ear to the ground. Lastly, find your unique niche in the world while continuing to advance and know for certain that there is no time like the present!

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10 Steps to Empower You to Stand Up for Your Beliefs!

10 Steps to Empower You to Stand Up for Your Beliefs!

“Be cognizant of the power that you alone possess and become influential in your own right by voicing your conviction.”

– Trey Boyer

This is a very interesting time in our society as there is a social undertone of division that criticizes those who stand up for their beliefs and convictions. However, you are most powerful when you do not seek or need approval for what you believe! There are 10 steps that you can take to empower yourself and give yourself a crystal-clear road map to follow in standing up your beliefs! 


This is so important because if you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything. One factor that history will teach you is that given time, history will always repeat itself. When you study the annals of civilizations before us, even dating back to Rome, you will find that societies most often self-destruct. What do you think of when I state “The land of the free, the home of the brave where there is abundant opportunity, freedom of speech, limited government, and a democratic society that is the leader of the free world”. Of course, I am describing the United States, but just pause for a moment and compare how we are living today compared to just a few decades ago. We as a nation have become the most obese country in the world, our national debt is at historic levels, social media platforms are censoring so called free speech, and we have started to pay other countries to remove our trash for us because of our over-indulgence. These are just a few of the societal ideals in which your belief systems can be challenged and you have the opportunity to speak up. 

Let me share an absolutely brilliant story of a young woman who has definitely chosen to not simply be an observer, but she has instead chosen to become an advocate. Greta Thunberg is from Sweden and though only 19 years of age, her voice has been heard throughout the world for years now as an environmental activist for climate change mitigation. Her activism began at the age 15 when she started spending her school days outside the Swedish Parliament to call for stronger action on climate change by holding up a sign reading School Strike for Climate. She gained notice for her youth and straightforward speaking both in public and to political leaders in assemblies where she openly criticized world leaders for their failure to take what she considered sufficient action to address the climate crisis. As a result, students have taken to her message and are holding protests around the globe to influence world leaders to begin taking strong and swift action before it is too late. Greta knows what she stands for and has become a part of the narrative to bring change.   


When you begin to peel back the layers of how any movement, social reform, or different way of thinking is first born, often it is through a singular voice seeking to spark change. It is commonplace to believe that your singular voice is irrelevant, and you could never make a difference anyway. After all, what could you possibly do or say that could have an impact in other’s lives and make a difference in society at large?  A better question is, “If not you then who?”. Take a moment and picture in your mind a tiny pebble being cast out into a calm body of water. The pebble lands on the water and a ripple effect occurs that disperses the water all around it. A very similar effect occurs when you speak out and make your opinion known. It causes others to take notice and causes a disruption of sorts that demands that they take notice. This is the power of one and you must never underestimate the influence that you alone possess. That is pretty weighty, but the responsibility that you must accept is in equal proportion to that which you have been given. You may be asking yourself, “What you have been given?” You have been given a platform in this world that is unique only to you towards certain convictions that need to be made known, you have been given a voice for others to hear, and you have a message inside of you that can give others their voice and the confidence to speak out. 


Consider that every time you choose to remain silent for your convictions, you have in essence given up part of yourself and for what? Fear of criticism, fear of being rejected, fear of having others jeer you, or perhaps it is simply getting out of your comfort zone. Know for certain that most often the only regrets you will have in life are the times that you were given the opportunity to do something meaningful and you chose instead to sit it out and/or stay silent. Therefore, become absolutely determined that you will not allow a moment of weakness to define you, but instead choose to garner all of your strength and step up. The sheer volume of influence that you possess can be transcendent and can have such a far-reaching effect that it cannot even be measured. So, instead of worrying about all that could go wrong, get excited about all that could go right. In the process, with that mentality you will win over hearts and minds, advocates and opposition, and naysayers and fans alike. 


Every time you say no to something that it is not worthy of your beliefs you are in fact saying yes to something that is. Let me give you an illustration (Which is also a personal example of standing up for my beliefs!)  You are at a sporting event and the national anthem begins to play.  You suddenly notice that there are throngs of people around you who have remained seated. Now here is where the rubber meets the road so to speak. You can either choose to fit in and say yes to this type of behavior and choose to remain seated, or you can say no and stand proudly for the men and women who have sacrificed their lives for this country and show respect for your nation. 

This is just one illustration, and I could give you countless others, but the point is that every time you say no to something, and you stand up for what you believe, you are going to be able to say yes to something that aligns perfectly with your beliefs. Now that is what is most significant in that you understand at the end of each day, you must answer to yourself. 


If there is one factor in living a successful life, know for certain that you are the ultimate decision maker in your life. You will never be able to please all the people all of the time and that should never even be an option on the table. So, block out the noise and simply be accountable to yourself. In doing so, you will take an immense amount of pressure off yourself, you will be healthier, you will rest better, and ultimately you will be happy. Do not fall into the trap of believing that your happiness is tied to pleasing others because ultimately you must please yourself. You are the standard bearer in your life and living up to your standards is the pinnacle of achievement. So, do not be easily swayed because you do not have to be all things to all people, you simply need to be held accountable to yourself. 


Easier said than done, absolutely. However, take a moment and look back on a choice you made in your life that worked out to be less than stellar. More than likely, it occurred because you didn’t want to stand out and it was much easier to just give in and conform. There is not now, nor will there ever be a situation where you should base your decision on taking the easy way out. Believe me when I tell you that you are smarter than you think, braver than you believe, and more successful than you have yet imagined and it all hinges on you believing in yourself and becoming a successful self-thinker. 


There has never been a time throughout history where the very core of our national beliefs and customs have been challenged like they are at present. Let me give you an example. Saying the pledge of allegiance to begin a school day has been a custom that several decades ago would have never been questioned until now. However, the very fabric of who we are as a country is now being gradually eroded and the question is where does it end? The answer is to be alert and realize that you don’t have to just settle for what is happening, but instead choose to put yourself out there and voice your opinion. Based on the example I just gave, you could attend school board meetings, PTA conferences and lead a support group of parents that are willing to stand up for their children. Realize that erosion of any kind is slow and gradual, and you must keep a vigilant eye out for change that you do not condone. 


Think of it this way, you can have the best of intentions, in regard to those with whom you choose to associate, but ultimately you are going to be influenced. There will never come a time in your life when you should let your guard down and not be aware of who you have let into your world. And here is why, just like quick-sand, a less than stellar individual will pull you down to their level. A great example is putting on white gloves to work in your flowerbed. Your gloves are going to get dirty every time. Look at it this way, dirty gloves are expected but there is no such thing as glovied dirt. Therefore, select wise people to be in your circle that have much to offer you and can serve to empower you as a person. The end result is that you will be enriched beyond compare because you have chosen to be wise in regard to those with whom you have chosen to associate. 


It is later now than it has ever been before. So, thinking that standing up for your beliefs can wait for tomorrow is not a valid argument. Understand that some things don’t need more prayer and planning, they just require that you take action and quit procrastinating. Become ultra-inspired that today is the day you will break through with no excuses and no apologies for your beliefs and you will speak out. It is so important that you realize that action speaks much louder than simply thinking about what you could’ve, should’ve, or might have done or been. 


First of all, other people are entitled to have their own opinion. That doesn’t mean that you must like it or agree with it, but just to be clear, they have that right. Secondly, for the most part, individuals can openly express their opinions in the United States. That is without question an incredible freedom, but with that freedom comes responsibility. What I mean by that is free speech can create a healthy dialogue to openly debate different points of views, but it also has the potential to become disparaging and ugly. Let me give you an example, the United States government. A word that is often used in politics is bipartisan which means that opposing viewpoints are taken into consideration. However, if there is one factor that history has shown us is that all too often, different points of views clash and party lines are drawn. Here is my point, do not take on the mindset that having your opinion and voicing it is in any way must be negative. You can respectfully disagree and always walk away from an opposing conversation with your dignity and your beliefs still intact. The takeaway is that at the end of the day, you have the final say!

Remember this -Know what you stand for because if you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything. Secondly, be cognizant of the power that you alone possess and become influential in your own right by voicing your convictions. All the while realizing that you are going to have to own your beliefs and stand your ground in order to not become easily swayed or feel the need to conform. This is going to require that you stay alert to an ever-changing world and choose those with whom you associate wisely in order to empower and enrich your platform. Lastly, be aware of what time it is in order to not deceive yourself by putting off until tomorrow what you could have achieved yesterday and know one thing for certain, you have the final say!

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